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Thursday, November 20, 2008

Stop Comparing

Comparing has been a source of lots of unproductive self-talk lately. This blog entry serves mostly as a note to myself.

Dear Red,
Stop comparing your stamina, your looks, your emotions, your bank account, your persistence, your resilience, your social status, your athletic ability, your entertainment preferences, your sense of responsibility, your healing capacity, your. . . ANYTHING to that of others around you. 95% of the time it just makes you miserable and the truth is they are having completely different life experiences and challenges. Stop comparing also applies to your previous existence. Not only were you having a different experience of life 3, 5, 10 years ago, you don't even remember things the way they actually were. (Here's a little secret: Nobody's actually keeping score. There will be no ranking posted at the end of the world. You will never find a list with your name on it saying "Red completed life with a rank of 127,638,461 in her class of 500,000,000 people." SO QUIT WORRYING ABOUT IT!)

Give yourself the freedom to be in awe of people around you and even yourself, to praise without needing to reduce anything in comparison. Let's start here: You are more than enough. Strong enough, disciplined enough, rich enough, busy enough, healthy enough, pretty enough, thoughtful enough, loving enough, GOOD enough.
Sincerely,
Me


Dear Me,
That's a hell of a lot easier to type than it is to believe, but thanks for the sentiment.
You Truly,
Red

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

*hugs*
Julie/fern

Silver said...

You're gorgeous. You dress beautifully, you're smart as a whip, sexier than should be legal, taller than you were, Happier than 95% of the people around you, rich enough to eat yummy fudz, you didn't get my cold, you can spank longer and with more vigor than I can, and you live with one of the most attractive men in the known universe.

You're also younger than I am, betch!

Love,

- Silver

Anonymous said...

i think everyone should have to read this post everyday... and then the world would be a much more satisfied, less jealous place... thank you, red!